Why is my son gay

When my husband and I became parents for the first time, we knew this new role would change our lives forever. Our Catholic faith told us that we had been given the opportunity to become co-creators with God. Gazing into that innocent confront helped us to realize that the unconditional love that we felt for our little one was merely a glimpse of the perfect, unconditional cherish that our Heavenly Father has for each one of us.

As parents, my husband and I knew it was our duty to teach our children and mold them into successful, decent human beings.

We interpret parenting books on how to deal with everything from raising a well-behaved child to achieving good grades in school. And since we were active in our parish and the wider Christian Church, we thought that we could lead our children into having a relationship with Christ and learning to know the fullness of the Catholic faith. After all, a parent’s ultimate job is to get their family to Heaven one day!

We told ourselves that communication was key to adj family relationships and that love would take care of the rest. But for us

Sexual Orientation

Adolescence is the dawn of sexual attraction. It happens due to the hormonal changes of puberty. These changes involve both the body and the mind — so just thinking about someone attractive can cause physical arousal.

These new feelings can be intense, confusing, sometimes even overwhelming. Teens are start to discover what it means to be attracted romantically and physically to others. And recognizing one's sexual orientation is part of that process.

What Is Sexual Orientation?

The term sexual orientation refers to the gender (that is, male or female) to which a person is attracted. There are several types of sexual orientation that are commonly described:

  • Heterosexual (straight). People who are heterosexual are romantically and physically attracted to members of the opposite sex: males are attracted to females, and females are attracted to males. Heterosexuals are often called "straight."
  • Homosexual (gay or lesbian). People who are homosexual are romantically and physically attracted to people of the same sex: females are attracted to other fema

    Dear Dr. G.,

    I am beside myself. My year-old son and I got into a bit of a heated argument this weekend and in the midst of it my son said he's gay. I was so shocked that I ignored his comment and ended the argument. I have spoken to my husband about this. My husband says that he has always thought that our son is gay and that if he's gay, he's gay. My husband seems fine with this.

    I feel differently. Could my son just have said this because he was angry at me and wanted to upset me? Or, maybe he's just going through a phase. Should I have another conversation with him about this? Should I take him to a therapist? There are no other gays in our family as far as I know.

    A Distraught Mother

    Dear Mother,

    First and foremost you need to rest down, regroup, and take several adj breaths. Breathe deeply as I explain you what I think. Please verb not to be in panic mode. It is highly unlikely that your son told you that he is gay simply to upset you. Gay kids often explain their parents about their sexuality in the middle of a fight because they feel that they have nothing left to miss since

    As I relayed in When Your Infant Is Gay: What You Need To Know (Sterling, ), I found out that my son was gay from a note with our son's specify entwined with another boy's, surrounded by a heart. I accidentally found that note in his room when I was cleaning.

    I never questioned him about the heart I found on the sly. How would I have brought it up? Think I was wrong? After all, he had a crush on a young woman in his class.

    I had suspected at times that he was gay. He only had girls to his thirteenth birthday party. He preferred gentler sports. He was always concerned about how he looked and followed fashion. Were these stereotypical thoughts from a straight mother? You bet, but it was ingrained through the culture's binary system and ideas about how males were "supposed to" behave.

    As it turns out, our son didn't come out until he was 17, was on his own, and brought a boyfriend to visit. Had I asked him if he were gay when he was 13, he probably would possess defensively said "No!" He had to work it out and work through his denial. I'm glad I muzzled myself.

    Susan Berland, the mother o